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What is your Mindset?

In Coaching, Inspiration, motivation, Personal Development on January 24, 2012 at 7:42 pm

First of all, what is a mindset?  The dictionary defines mindset as:

mind·set or mind-set  (mndst)   n.

1. A habitual or fixed mental attitude or disposition that predetermines a person’s responses to and interpretations of situations.
2. An inclination or a habit.
So we know that if you have a fixed way of looking at something, like your life, your future, your weight, your job, chances are you will always look at it that way, unless you CHANGE YOUR MINDSET.
So what does that look like?  Take for example, a woman who has held the same job for 15 years, has not received promotions, and has not sought out new opportunities.  What do you think her Mindset is about her career, her ability to succeed in the field of  her choice, and even her view of her future career path?  What do you think her “interpretation” of her “situation” would be?  Do you think she is optimistic about her chances of promotion, or success in finding a better job?  What will need to happen if she is to change that?
What about the mindset of a person who’s parents couldn’t afford to travel, didn’t go on family vacations, and spoke negatively about those that did?  What is their “predetermined” “response” to taking long leisurely, relaxing vacations? How would this person achieve a life goal of traveling through Europe before they are 50?  What will they need to overcome?
So what about you?  What is your predetermined response to things you want to do, but feel you can’t, shouldn’t, won’t?  What is your Mindset?
Figuring out what your mindset is, is the first step in changing it, in order to reach the goals you really want in your life.
If you need help, try Mindset Life Coach, Victoria Edge, CPC.  You can learn more at our website, or even on our Mindset Life Coach Thumbtack.com page!
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Change your Mindset and Change your Life!

In Coaching, Inspiration, motivation, Personal Development, perspective on January 23, 2012 at 5:44 pm

Have you ever heard of the One Degree Shift? No, I’m not talking about the Polar Shift, or even global warming.  I am speaking of making changes in your life.  According to Tony Robbins,

“One degree or one millimeter … of perception change or angle change, means the difference between success and failure, moving on or staying stuck.”

When you look at the things in your life you want to change, or goals in your life you want to reach, so often they seem so far off, so unattainable.  Your current perspective or mindset shows you that where you are today and where you want to be are too far apart.  This is defeating, unmotivating, and most often depressing.  With your aspirations dashed, and the “impossibility” of reaching your dreams, you might even give up completely!

Good News

By changing your Mindset, you can reach those goals, attain that change or lifestyle.

There is a little trick that can mean the difference between success and failure.  You see, we always look at these goals from the “insurmountable” perspective.  When all we need to do is to look at the here and now.

Let me explain.  Imagine a map, and a very large lake on the map.  You are in a boat on that lake, and have been heading toward an island shown on the map that is 15 miles away.  You just realized that the island you have been headed toward is 20 miles to the East from the the island where you really needed to go!    A 20 MILE Mistake!!  That will take all day!  That is too much! Then begins the stomping, the wailing, the crying, the desire to give up, the idea to jump out of the boat, etc.  But wait!  If you change your perspective, and stop looking at the distance between one destination (goal) and the other, and look at it from “here and now” you will see that if you simply change your approach by 1 degree East, you will reach your new goal with very little extra effort.

The 1 Degree Shift is a powerful tool in changing your mindset.  Look at what small thing you can do each day, what small shift, change or action that will take you toward your goal and then implement it. That is doable!  Don’t get lost in the list of things you will have to do in order to reach your goal, don’t look at the obstacles you will have to over come in order to get what you want.  Instead, shift your path by 1 degree and see if all those obstacles are even still in your way!

This is why Mindset Life Coaching is so powerful.  Don’t waste another minute saying you CAN’T, when now you know you CAN!

Check us out at our Mindset Life Coach website, or at our Mindset Life Coach Thumbtack page.

Contact us today, and begin your journey to your goals!

Have You Run Into a Wall?

In Coaching, motivation, Personal Development, perspective, Women's growth, women's issues on January 17, 2012 at 4:46 pm

Do you feel like you keep running into walls when you are trying to accomplish something?
Do you ever feel like you don’t have any options?
Do you feel like you are up against a wall with no where to go?
Even though you know better, do you feel like you have to face this all alone?

Well, you are not alone, you have someone in your corner, you have someone to help you find the window, the door, or even the ladder to get past your obstacles and move forward.

All You Have to do is Ask!

Really, you don’t even have to know what you need, as a professional coach, I can help you discover where these walls come from and how to not only work through them, but in many cases, never see them again!

Not sure if this could actually work in your situation?  Check out the questions and situations on our our “Is Coaching Right For You” page.

Not sure if I am the coach for you?  Check out my Lifestyle and Mindset Coaching page on Thumbtack.com.  You can ask questions about your specific issues, get a quote, or even check out other coaches.  I am confident that, like my other clients, you will be thrilled with the new possibilities in your life after only a few short months.

Contact me today!

Emotional Baggage – What are You Carrying Around?

In Coaching, Inspiration, motivation, Personal Development, perspective, women's issues on December 21, 2011 at 11:33 pm

We all come with baggage; credit scores, financial responsibilities, bad decisions, and memories and experiences we hold on to.  But what creates emotional baggage? 

You and I have had experiences in our past, some of them not so good, some may even have been traumatic.  It is the decision to carry that experience into our future, and how we allow it to impact our actions, behaviors and future that determines whether it becomes baggage, or not.

Did you notice that I said “It is the DECISION…” and “… how we ALLOW IT to impact….”?  Yes, you have a choice.  So many times we hold on to feelings, emotions, memories and experiences that do not serve us, yet years, even decades later we still pull it out and run it up a flag pole, as if it were our guiding light. 

You do have a choice, but sometimes discovering how to let go can be difficult.  Depending on how long you have carried this baggage, how emotionally scarring it was, your continued exposure to the other’s involved or other triggers, you may have to work on letting this go for a while.  Here are some tips on how you can look your baggage in the eye and show it to the door.

1.  Think about a lesser experience in your past when someone hurt your feelings.  It hurt.  It made you mad, or sad, or angry.  You thought about that hurt for several days.  You stayed mad for a while.  But today, you are not carrying that hurt or anger with you any more.  Why?  What made you forget or let it go?  When this experience is brought to mind, do you get emotional or relive it? 

2.  Now, revisit the experience that surrounds your baggage, and think about it in its entirety.  Sometimes talking it out with someone you trust, a counselor or a coach can help.  Journaling can be helpful as well.  Find a method that works for you.  This should be a clinical examination of the experience, not an opportunity to get lost and consumed by the emotion.  Some emotion, perhaps anger or tears may be expected as you review this situation.

2.  Now, look at your experience in current terms.  By carrying this baggage around with you today, what impact on your life does it present?  What are you unable to do?  What does it make you do?  What happens that creates problems in your life, because of it?  Using your method of “revisiting” tell your friend/coach/counselor or Journal in detail how this impacts your life, and potentially the lives of others.

3.  Now imagine how it would be different if you no longer had the baggage.  Imagine your experiences in GREAT detail, really think about what you could now do that you couldn’t before, how would your life be different?  How would your future be different?  Really feel how it would be different.  Feelings are very powerful and can actually help make a transition.

4.  Now, look at how this baggage protects you.  What are you protected from, how does this baggage keep you safe?  No matter how silly it sounds, think about how it comforts you to hold on to it.  How is this feeling different from the feeling in the previous step?  Which one feels better (not more comfortable)?

5.  Now that you have the facts, and all the windows are opened and the darkness and secrets are cleared away, do you feel like you CAN let it go?  Think about the experience you recalled in step 1.  Do you think you can treat this experience in the same way? 

Good for you!  You may not be able to do all this in a day, it might actually take a while.  That is usually why coaching packages range from 6 – 24 weeks, giving you time to work through this or other processes with focus and accountability. 

This is not a fool-proof or perfect method, however, it might get you started or on the right track.  If you are looking for more help, please feel free to email me, or check out my website at www.mindsetlifecoach.com

Koyaanisqatsi Is Your Life out of Balance?

In Coaching, Essential Oils, Inspiration, motivation, Personal Development, perspective on April 11, 2011 at 3:36 pm

 

Chief Iron Eyes Cody from Koyaanisqatsi

When I was much younger, back in 1982, I was touched by a film called Koyaanisqatsi:  Life out of balance. The Hopi Indian word Koyaanisqatsi was used to depict a world where our focus on industry, progress and getting ahead, created discord in the bigger picture of nature, harmony, peace and health, leaving our world out of balance, and on a path for destruction.

This concept of Koyaanisqatsi has stayed with me, and now, as a Holistic Lifestyle Coach, I see how many of us struggle with our lives that are “out of balance”; our lives that are Koyaanisqatsi.  Our drive to succeed often compromises our relationships, our connection with nature, and even our connection to spirit, beliefs and our higher power.

Bringing our lives into balance, or Lomakatsi, means to put back in place those connections to earth, nature, spirit, family, hope, love, and a bigger world view – thereby  making our lives whole, and part of the circle of life. We find ourselves filled with energy, motivation, hope and purpose.

Koyaanisqatsi                          Lomakasti
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Where are you on the graph above?  Are you completely disassociated with nature, earth, relationships, spirit and higher power? Or are you somewhere in the middle?

I’d say most of us are about mid way, some more to the left, others, closer to a good balance.

Have you ever looked at your life like this?  Are you surprised to think about your life in these terms?

The problem isn’t completely where you are on this graph; the problem is how do you move more to the right and into balance?  The further to the right you move, you will find less stress, more peace, more happiness, and the areas of your life will fall more easily together.  Who doesn’t want that?

As with any problem, identifying it is the first step, so now that you are aware of it, you have already shifted your perspective and have made a small movement to the right.  So, to keep the momentum, what else can you do?  Here are some ideas to help you get more Lomakasti:

Take some time EACH day to step outside and appreciate nature.  Whether it is 5 degrees below zero, or 95 degrees in the shade, there is something outside that you can find that is beautiful.  What about the color of the sky, the way the trees are silhouetted against the sunset, what about the little plant that is growing up between the cracks in the pavement in a busy down town sidewalk?  Don’t just notice it, appreciate it.  Feel the appreciation for the beauty.  When you do this you will feel stress start to slip away.  The more you do this the better you will begin to feel.

Find your soul’s seat.  It might be in a park near your house, the shoreline of a beach, it might be a swing in your back yard, it might be looking out the picture window of your 30 story highrise, but there is someplace, that when you are there, you feel peace, connected, in touch with a bigger power.  Don’t have one?  Look for one.  It will either be outside, or it will be looking outside, often it is near water (the water might even be an underground source) – it will always be connecting to nature and beauty that brings this soul peace.  Find this place and spend time there – drink in the beauty, grandeur, or peace.  Try to connect with the energy of this place.  Try to envision that you are breathing in the energy around you.  Feel the power, the inspiration, the energy fill you.

Meditate. Many people practice meditation, if you have not tried it, you will be surprised at the focus, relaxation and clarity you find.  Whether you meditate alone, or take a meditation or yoga class, you will find that soon, your mind clears more quickly and you can find that peace more often.

Once you try some of these tips you will find more balance and move to the right!

Now that you have taken steps to actually begin moving more toward a life in balance, what else can you do?  Work / Life balance is another area that can bring you closer to the right.

You might even ask for help from a Lifestyle Coach.  I can help you find the areas in your life that are pulling you to the left and out of balance, and help you refocus that energy to move you more into balance.

The choice is always yours; I wish you peace and Lomakatsi.

Contact me at Victoria@mindsetlifecoach.com or visit http://www.mindsetlifecoach.com for more information about moving your life into balance.

You might even try a wonderful Essential Oil that is designed to help focus, balance and ground you in times of stress or anxiety – it is called Balance.  Read more here:  www.ahealthstrategy.com or contact info@ahealthstrategy.com.

Success Stories

In Coaching, health and wellness, Inspiration, motivation, Personal Development, perspective on January 25, 2011 at 3:34 pm

As a Coach, I work with clients from around the world who are trying to make changes to their lives, get out of ruts, reach goals and find happiness, success and health.  One of the common themes I am seeing is that many clients want to achieve a level of success in their business, but are either stuck at a plateau, or don’t even know where to begin.  This started me thinking, and has put me on a path to not only help my clients, but any Natural Health Practitioner who is struggling to grow, build or revitalize their business.  This includes those who own a health store, an herb shop, a spa, clinic, and even independent health consultants.  Many of you are already familiar with my first book, Health Strategy: Essential Oils; now I have begun writing a new book, interviewing those in this industry that have achieved lasting success, and getting their stories, secrets, their tools, their advice and their warnings for those on their way up.

Here are just a few questions and answers from those interviews for you to gnaw on, whet your appetite for more, and get you thinking about how this might help you!

Interview with SS:

Question: What helped you get your business off the ground?

Answer:  Lots of things, but each of our stores was different.  What worked for one store, we learned didn’t work for another.  For one store, we were able to get a local radio station to mention our store, and the next day, we had customers waiting in line before we opened!  Yet, for another store, nothing we had tried before seemed to work, until we got out and met the people, handed out fliers, got to know the people.  Once we did that, the previously small store almost grew overnight.

Interview with LT:

Question: What was the one thing that pushed your business into the fast lane?

Answer:  Two things, that really go hand in hand – Building client trust by always being honest and keeping my clients needs first, and carrying only products I could believe in.  That way I was always creating the most comprehensive healing opportunities for my clients.  I had built a strong client base, so when I introduced new products or services, my clients adopted them, based on my recommendation.  Always be open to new ideas and recommendations from your trusted resources, then do your research, ask others who have tried it, and try if for yourself!  Then you can confidently add it to your line and recommend it to your clients!

Interview with AG:

Question: What was the tool or action that you took that made the biggest difference in your success?

Answer:  You have to have a mentor, and be mentored by someone who is successful in doing what you want to do!  Talk with others who have done what you want to do, and who have made a successful lifestyle doing it!  A simple change of perspective from someone with expertise in that area, can create a boom in business! If your immediate upline isn’t the ideal mentor, don’t stop there – go out and find others that you can learn from – your success is in your own hands.

Imagine having the answers to over 25 questions like these, from 30 Successful Managers!  I’ll bet you can find your own story in theirs, find a path or find ideas you never thought of!

Stay tuned for more information about this powerful book!

Creating Goals You Can Achieve

In Coaching, motivation, Personal Development, tools on November 23, 2010 at 3:36 pm

In the words of Napoleon Hill, author of such books as Think and Grow Rich, and Law of Success, “A goal is a dream with a deadline.

Goals, if you are serious about achieving them, must be well thought out, measurable, achievable, specific, have some type of deadline, and the success of achieving this goal has to be in your hands – not left to the whim of someone or something else.

If you are really serious about making change in your business, life, finances, relationships, etc., you will have to actually put some thought into it.  Now is the perfect time, because Thanksgiving is here, everyone is speaking about what they are thankful for, what they are grateful for, they are telling YOU what they are grateful and thankful for about YOU!  Build off of these, or borrow from other’s gratitude list.

  1. First, make a SERIOUS list.  By a serious list, I mean, make a list of things that not only you want to achieve, but that you are willing to MAKE a reality.  If you aren’t willing to put effort and time in on it, don’t use the effort and time to write them down.
  2. Review the list again and see if the attainment of these goals are solely within your power – this makes it harder to blame someone else for not reaching it! Reaching goals is really about accountability.
  3. Review the list again and determine if the way you have written each goal is specific enough.  For example, “Make more money” is not as specific as “Make $300 a month more.”
  4. Now, for each goal, set a deadline.  For example “Make $300 a month more by the end of the second quarter.”
  5. Review the list again and see if you have ANY idea how to make that goal happen.  Can you make a plan to achieve it?  It is ok, to have at least one goal on your list that you “leave to fate” to accomplish, but for the rest you’ll need a plan.
  6. Now review your list and see how these goals align with your  values.  It is imperative that your goals align with your values, because you will either not achieve goals contrary to your values, or you will be forfeiting your values to reach the goal, which makes for a mess in the end.  If you are not absolutely sure of what your values are, there is an Values exercise on our website that might get you thinking.

On his website, Dr. Phil says, “For a dream to become a goal, it has to be specifically defined in terms of operations, meaning what will be done. When a goal is broken down into steps, it can be managed and pursued much more directly. “Being happy,” for example, is neither an event nor a behavior. When you set out to identify a goal, define what you want in clear and specific terms.”

Many people set goals, some achieve them, some never do.  Where are you on that scale?  Are your goals important enough to you?  After you have honestly completed the exercise above, ask yourself, “can I do this on my own?” Or is part of your plan to enlist help?

Are you brave enough or committed enough to really make the effort to reach the goals you set; to really make the changes, improvements, advances or decisions needed to succeed?  If you have tried it on your own, and are still not “Rocking the World” you should consider enlisting the help of a Life Coach.

A life coach helps you set goals and meet them,” said Randy Cross, assistant general secretary for clergy supervision and accountability for the [UMC] denomination’s General Board of Higher Education and Ministry (GBHEM). There’s an element of accountability in working with a coach. It’s not just, ‘I hope you can do it, and God be with you.’”

A coach doesn’t tell you what to do.  A coach listens to you, hears how you describe your dreams and goals.  A coach can help you drill down to the real meaning why you are not moving forward, and help you step out of the rut. What goals are you serious about attaining? Is it time you asked for some assistance?

“I believed that every move in my life had to be carefully considered, discussed, pondered and approved by others.” explains Samantha, a Wellness Professional in Melbourne, Australia.  “I second-guessed everything I did. When I began working with Victoria, she asked me very powerful questions and made me look at why I believed this was necessary.  She asked me questions that made me look inside and discover strength and confidence.  I have recently graduated, but the way I was working on it, I had originally thought it would take me 2 more years to complete, but with Victoria’s help, I was able to make decisions, commitments, and take on challenges and responsibilities I had been putting off.  Now I work with Victoria to keep me on track and help me not fall back into my “old” ways.”

Samantha’s story is not unique, we become accustomed to our habits, comfortable in our ruts, and go about our lives in the same way, day in and day out.  Of course we can’t reach a goal that is outside of our routine-rut.  We often need a boost out of the rut. If you are ready to make a change, rock the world, take a step forward, contact me for more information, or visit our website:  http://www.mindsetlifecoach.com.  You’ll be GRATEFUL you did!

Re-Imagine Your Life – for just $2.50?

In Coaching, health and wellness, Personal Development, Women's growth, women's health and wellness, women's issues on July 27, 2010 at 7:20 pm

You know that feeling – when your body feels like it is being squished from the sheer weight of the gravity around you, when it actually takes effort to smile and breath.  The scariest part of that feeling is that you often don’t have an outlet or any where to turn to get out of it!  This pressure goes by many names, fear, stress, overwhelm, anxiety, you name it! 

Women, I am talking to you!  You look gorgeous, you dress like a winner, you are on the right career path, everything looks like you have it all together!  But what would happen if we pulled back the curtain of your life?  What does it look like from your perspective?  Is your inner little girl sitting on the floor crying and rocking?  Is she pounding on the doors to get out?  Or is she sitting in the dark hoping no-one notices her? 

Why don’t we ask for help?  We do so much for so many people in our world, but we are always last on the list.  We spend money on ballet lessons, music lessons, soccer camp, golf outings, and when it comes time to spend money on ourselves, we can’t. 

So, what if I told you that for the pocket change at the end of every day, you could get the support, understanding, life planning, health and wellness, career and finance assistance that  you have always dreamed about.  What if you could have a Certified, Professional Coach, a plan, a support group, tons of resources at your fingertips, for just $2.50 a day?  — No, there is no catch. 

As a coach, I am always looking for ways to make help, resources, and coaching available to everyone, but so many women can’t justify spending money on a Coach for themselves.  These women are missing out on the power, the self discovery, the health, the motivation, career and relationship assistance, and the confidence to make phenomenal changes in their lives.  For the cost of a daily Latte, you can empower your life and reimagine your future!

What do you do everyday that you spend $2.50 or more on?  Coffee?  Lunch out?  Your nails?  Do any of those help you create your future, reduce your stress and anxiety, help you build a roadmap for improving your life? 

Want to learn more?  Check out my page for this life changing offer! Click around, read what interests you.  Need more info?  Contact me directly!

Don’t wait!  What will you tell yourself, your family or your friends in 6 months when you could be realizing your new life, but yet nothing has changed because you did nothing?  To quote Tony Robbins, “MAKE A MOVE!”